That's what I'm always saying...

Half the world is composed of people who have something to say and can't, and the other half who have nothing to say and keep on saying it. 

~ Robert Frost

My mantra for the week

Did you know that it's actually possible for you to say, “I don't know enough about this to have an opinion."? 
~ Professor Richard Feynman

Listen up, parents (and everybody else)

Don't worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.
~ Robert Fulgham

Unnecessary things...

Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn, a cool breeze in summer, snow in winter. 

If your mind isn't clouded by unnecessary things, this is the best season of your life. 
~ Wu-men

Average People

Average means you’re sick, broke, and unhappy 

You’ve got to uplevel.

If you hang around average people, you are going to get average results

But...but...I'm afraid!

Fear kills more dreams

than failure ever will

~ Suzy Kasem

only one life, indeed...

Here's the deal...

I've only got one life to live,

and I want to live it with Steffie and my daughter.

~ Liam, on The Bold and Beautiful

I was once so broke that I couldn't afford to pay the electric bill.

Those were the darkest days of my life.

Yes

The more you know

the less you fear.

~ Chris Hatfield, Astronaut

works in finances AND life!

Pain 

+

Reflection

=

Progress

~ Ray Dalio, Bridgewater hedge fund manager

Likely...

The past is never dead.

It's not even past.

~ William Faulkner

When you know, you know!

There's no such thing as too much horsepower...

just not enough traction.

~ Carroll Shelby

If only…

Spock:  Christine.  I’m sorry

Nurse Chapel:  Stop.  Save it. There’ll be time later.

~ Star Trek:  Brave New Worlds

Or more!

When sex is good, it’s 10 percent of the relationship.

When sex is bad, it’s 90 percent.

~ Dr. Phil

Oh, gawd, We’re doomed

Relationships succeed not because you like holding hands, but because you like looking in the same direction.

 ~ Erica Berry’s mom, New York Times guest essay

Yep

The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.

~Charles Bukowski

'Be a grown-ass man' is my mantra of the week.

Do what our son did. Be a grown-ass man. Admit to your mistakes. Learn from them so this doesn’t happen ever, ever again. 
~ Darin Hoover, father of fallen Marine Staff Sargent Darin Taylor Hoover,who was one of 13 U.S. troops killed in the suicide bombing of the August 2021 Kabul airport evacuation,to Secretary of State Antony Blinken, Defense Secretary Lloyd Austin, Joint Chiefs of Staff Chairman General Mark Milley, and President Joe Biden.

Makes sense

People do not decide their futures.

They decide their habits, and their habits decide their futures

~ F. M. Alexander

I do, do you?

Everybody need a friend show will call them on their bullshit.

~ Bret O. 

If only we believed what we saw...

I can't believe what your say

because I see what you do.

~ James Baldwin

Ouch!

To sleep with women endlessly without love is a cursed and hollow life.

~ Elon Musk

How does that compare to marrying one of them?

~ Scott Adams

Intuitive people live at least one dimension deeper with the universe.

~ Zdravko Stefanovic

 

The basic tool for the manipulation of reality is the manipulation of words.

If you can control the meaning of words, you can control the people who must use the words.

~ Philip K. Dick

The eternal conflict between truth and tradition

They won't listen. Do you know why? Because they have certain fixed notions about the past. Any change would be blasphemy in their eyes, even if it were the truth 
They don't want the truth; they want their traditions. 
~ Isaac Asimov

At least Billy Jack thought it through...

Billy Jack [surrounded by an angry mob]:
The one thing that I've learned is that if there is absolutely no way you can get out of taking a terrible beating, the only sensible thing to do is... 
get in the first lick!

[proceeds to kick maximum ass] 

~ The Trial of Billy Jack (1974)


Frank Wisdom

None of us have the promise of tomorrow.

God forbid this is my last day on earth, it won't be spent listening to some news person telling me how rotten we are, how rotten life is.  Heck no, I'm going out and seeing how beautiful life is.

As humans, our time on this planet is very limited...

Turn off, tune out, and turn on your life.  

Peace
~ Frank Zappa

I'll give it a try...

Skinner's Law

If procrastinating, you have two ways to solve it: 
  • Make the pain of inaction > Pain of action
  • Make the pleasure of action > Pleasure of inaction

A lot, indeed!

On a road trip, passing a billboard that says "Live Girls Dancing Daily".

My daughter's voice from the back seat - "Wow, that's a lot of recitals!"
~ Simon Holland

Mo Knows

The gravity of the battle means nothing to those at peace.

~ Mo Gawdat

If I had a nickel...

Don't you get glib about last night!

It was very important to me!

~ Paula, to Elliot, in The Goodbye Girl (1977)

I still hold out hope...

The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it.

~ George Orwell

Subtle Medieval Wisdom

The crow, by not crowing, could have the cadaver for himself. 

Corvus non crocitando cadaver solus haberet.

Pre-colonial Preacher

Don't waste any time trying to explain the crookedness of a stick.

All you have to do is lay a straight stick beside it and the work is done.

Speak the truth, and error is abashed in its presence.

~ Charles Spurgeon

Put it out there!

You may not always see the results of your kindness, but every drop of positive energy you ever put out changes the world for everyone.

~ John Tesh

Or even an Environmental Professional?

Everyone deserves a little joy in their life...

...even a Captain.

~ Una to Captain Pike, Star Trek:  Strange New Worlds


But yet I keep trying!

You can’t use reason to convince anyone out of an argument that they didn’t use reason to get into.
~ Neil DeGrasse Tyson

Tru' dat!

What we've done with our politics is to create a situation where we are electing idiots.

~ Liz Cheney

Good advice

Whenever I’m about to do something, I think ‘Would an idiot do that?’ and if they would, I do not do that thing.
~ Dwight Schrute, The Office

The best thing I've read all week!

The best way to spot an idiot - look for the person who is cruel.

Let me explain:

When we see someone who doesn't look like us, or sound like us, or act like us, or love like us, or live like us, the first thought that crosses almost everyone's brain is either rooted in fear or judgement, or both.

That's evolution.  We survived as a species by being suspicious of things we aren't familiar with.  In order to be kind, we have to shut down that animal instinct and force our brains to travel a different pathway.  

Empathy and compassion are evolved states of being. They require the mental capacity to step past our most primal urges.  This may be a surprising assessment because somewhere along the way in the last few years, our society has come to believe that weaponized cruelty is part of some well thought-out master plan.

Cruelty is seen by some as an adroit cudgel to gain power. Empathy and kindness are considered weak.  Many important people look at the vularable only as rungs on a ladder to the top.  

I'm here to tell you that when someone's path through this world is marked with acts of cruelty, they have failed the first test of an advanced society. They never forced their animal brain to evolve past its first instinct; they never forged new mental pathways to overcome their own instinctual fears.  And so, their thinking and problem solving will lack the imagination and creativity that the kindest people have in spades.

Over my many years in politics and business, I have found one thing to be universally true:  The kindest person in the room is often the smartest.

~ Illinois Governor J.B. Pritzker, 2023 Northwestern University commencement speech



Almost always!

PowerPoint's are the peacocks of the business world - 

All show, no meat.

~ Dwight Shute, in The Office

The man has thought it through!

Ted Bundy (shoe salesman) to arrogant lady:

So you think I'm a loser?

Just because I have a stinking job that I hate, a family that doesn't respect me, and a whole city that curses the day I was born?

Well, that may mean loser to you, but let me tell you something: 

Every morning when I wake up, I know that it's not going to get any better until I go back to sleep again.

But I get up, have my watered-down Tang and still-frozen Pop Tart. Get in my car with no upholstery, no gas, and six more payments, to fight traffic just for the privilege of putting cheap shoes on the cloven hooves of people like you.

I'll never play football like I thought I would. I'll never know the touch of a beautiful woman.

And I'll never again know the joy of driving without a bag on my head. 

But I'm not a loser.

Because despite it all, me and every other guy who will never be what he wanted to be are still out there being what we don't want to be, 40 hours a week for life. 

And the fact that I haven't put a gun to my head makes me a winner!

~ from Married with Children


Surely we deserve and can do better...

"Among us friends, let's be honest," John Kelly said. "About a third of the things the President wants us to do are flat-out stupid. Another third would be impossible to implement and wouldn't even solve the problem. And a third would be flat-out illegal."

~ John Kelly, retired U.S. Marine Corp General and Trump's former Chief of Staff

I concur...

The worse a country is, the more secrets it has.
~ Matt Taibbi

Now you tell me!

Unrealistic expectations result in unmet expectations.

Old school sportsmanship

In one of the most notable moments in sports history, Kenyan runner Abel Mutai was just a few feet from the finish line, but became confused with the signage and stopped thinking he had completed the race.

A Spanish athlete, Ivan Fernandez, was right behind him, and after realizing what was happening, he started shouting at the Kenyan for him to continue running; but Mutai didn't understand his Spanish. 

Fernandez eventually caught up to him and instead of passing him, he pushed him to victory.  

A journalist asked Ivan, "Why did you do that?" 

Ivan replied, “My dream is that someday we can have a kind of community life where we push and help each other to win.” 

The journalist insisted “But why did you let the Kenyan win?" 

Ivan replied, "I didn't let him win, he was going to win.” 

The journalist insisted again, “But you could have won!”

Ivan looked at him & replied, “But what would be the merit of my victory? What would be the honor of that medal? What would my Mom think of that?” 

Values are transmitted from generation to generation. What values are we teaching our children? Let us not teach our kids the wrong ways to WIN.”

Indeed...

I want to die peacefully in my sleep, like my grandfather...

...not screaming in terror like his passengers.
~ Jack Handy

More VP word salad...[smh]*

But let's always take a moment to also see what we have achieved thus far, while we clearly see the moment that we are presently in.  
So we have achieved a lot. 
~ Vice President Kamala Harris

* shaking my head

Applies to many adults, too

Tips for dealing with teenagers:
Don't try to win arguments with teenagers using logic, evidence, or persuasion.
Even if they see your point, it's not worth the loss of power, so they must resist. 
 ~ From Voice Lessons

Sigh...

We have now sunk to a depth at which restatement of the obvious is the first duty of intelligent men.
~ George Orwell

So I've heard

Happiness is positive cash flow.
~ Fred Adler, author

That's depressing...

Call no man happy until he is dead.
~  adage known in ancient Athens

Price's Law

The square root of the number of people in a group do 50 percent of the work.

I'm so out of luck...

If you judge the success of your marriage on your happiness, what do you have when it's nothing but suffering?

What you want to have in your marriage, first and foremost, is a scrupulous honesty.  And I don't mean you tell each other other the truth, because you can be brutal with the truth.

I mean the kind of honesty that's devoted towards thriving in love.  

You want someone in a relationship that you can spar with - and it's partly because you have hard problems to solve. And if the person that you're with isn't willing to put forward their opinion, then you only have half the cognitive power that you would otherwise have.

Hopefully, you find someone who is interestingly different from you, but not so different that you can't communicate.

~ Jordan Peterson

Cognitive bias

The human mind is not wired for probabilty. 

What's wrong with feeling special?

I guess in principle, nothing.  But it's not an accurate understanding of the world.

That is your choice.  Do you want to live in a delusion of what you think is true?

Or do you want to live in a reality of what IS true?

~ Neil deGrasse Tyson, on Master Class


And the difference is…?

Sally:  You lied to me…

Barry:  I didn’t lie to you…

Sally:  You did.  You did!

Barry:  I didn’t lie to you - I didn’t tell you the part I didn’t want to be true.

~ Barry (on HBO)

The Pale Blue Dot

Pale Blue Dot is a photo of Earth that was taken by the Voyager 1 space probe in 1990 from a distance of about 6 billion kilometers (3.7 billion miles) as it was leaving our solar system. 

This is what Carl Sagan said about the photo: 
Look again at that dot. That's here. That's home. That's us. On it, everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor, and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every 'superstar,' every 'supreme leader,' every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there — on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam. 

The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand. It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. 

There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known.



Doing nothing is better than being busy doing nothing. 
~ Lao Tzu
A fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love. 

These things cannot be bought – they must be earned.
~ Naval Ravikant
To do something is better than to not do something.
~ John Lennon